Lindsay opines on relationship worries
Dear Lindsay,
I work with this girl and I had a crush on her for a while. When
I asked her if she ever thought about dating me, she said she
doesn’t date people she works with. We don’t work together anymore,
but I don’t know if I should ask her out or if maybe she just said
that because she really doesn’t want to date me. What do you
think?
– Confused about dating rules
Lindsay opines on relationship worries
Dear Lindsay,
I work with this girl and I had a crush on her for a while. When I asked her if she ever thought about dating me, she said she doesn’t date people she works with. We don’t work together anymore, but I don’t know if I should ask her out or if maybe she just said that because she really doesn’t want to date me. What do you think?
– Confused about dating rules
Dear Confused,
The best thing to do is start talking to her to catch up on things, simply friendship based. See how she is doing and casually work to how her relationship status is. Maybe you two should hang out and see how you two react to each other. The most important thing is to take it slow, and not to get your hopes up. If it happens, it happens.
Dear Lindsay,
I am 17 and going to be a senior in high school. I have been best friends with someone since junior high and I always spend time at her house and with her family. Well recently I started thinking my friend’s younger brother is kind of cute and I think he likes me, too, because he is always flirting with me. He is 16 and going to be a junior. I am worried about dating him because he is younger than me, but also because I don’t want to mess up my friendship. What should I do?
– Crushing on a younger man
Dear Crushing,
The best thing you could do is talk to your friend about it. The one thing you do not want to do is ruin a friendship because of it, even though you cannot control your feelings. If she seems to be ok with it, then go for it, but it’s not going to be easy. Either way, there will be some awkwardness to it. Just make sure that all three of you are on the same page, and are cool with everything
Dear Lindsay,
I really like this girl, but I am really shy about calling her. She added me as a friend on MySpace and I’ve been thinking about sending her a message or comment asking her out. Should I call her or send her a message?
– From worried about rejection
Dear Worried About Rejection,
Now that we have the technology, it’s easier to communicate. Just be casual. Send her a message on MySpace saying hello and work up to a conversation. Get to know her a bit, and casually ask her if you could call her, or if she wants to hang out. Once you get passed the awkward phase, it won’t be as hard. Girls like when you start the conversation first.
Dear Lindsay,
I really want to get a pet, but my parents have only ever let us have fish. I want a cat or dog, but I know my parents won’t let me have one unless I can prove that I am responsible. What can I do to show them I will take care of an animal that requires more attention than a fish?
– Longing for a pet
Dear Longing for a Pet,
Start offering to do more chores to show that you can be responsible, especially when you offer to do things. Clean the house, or do the dishes even if it isn’t your night. Work your way up. Sooner or later, they will get the hint you want something, and when they ask, tell them how you feel and let them know that you are ready to take on the responsibility of taking care of a pet other than a fish.
